Many people see Femdom as some form of perversion; even people who practice Femdom see it this way. This is because Femdom is associated with kinky sex, and sadomasochism. Yet if we are to look at Femdom in a different way and bring love into this mix we can see it as a way people can learn how to love fully and completely. More than this, if everyone on this planet was to have these Femdom desires it would make our world a far better place to live in.
Men and women have two different instincts that come from our animal past. Men have a very powerful competitive instinct, so like rams, bulls, stags and lions they like fight and compete with other males for dominance. Female animals have on the other hand a powerful nurturing and maternal instinct and this drives females to want to have young and care and look after them.
The competitive instinct drive men towards loving themselves, you have to be very selfish to be very competitive, because you are only interested in what you want, to the degree of taking it away from others. The opposite is true for women, as the maternal instinct drives women into loving everyone but herself. So mothers tend to put the welfare of her children before themselves. This instinct then drives many women to put the welfare of their husbands, and other relations before themselves. This is why the caring professions are dominated by women who devote their whole lives caring for others with little thought for their own welfare.
The patriarchal society greatly encourages these two instincts. Men are encouraged to be even more competitive and aggressive through the macho culture and this drives men into hating others and using violence. While at the same time it condemns women’s maternal instincts as a ‘weakness’. To the degree that many women are taught to despise their caring and nurturing instincts and try to learn to be competitive, aggressive and even violent.
Love is only a weakness when people do not love fully. Many women through their maternal and nurturing instincts learn to love others unconditionally but do not learn to love themselves. Patriarchal propaganda in the past discourages is women learning to love themselves. Yes, it is all right for women to love their husbands and children unconditionally but it is not all right for women to love themselves with the same intensity. So women were made to feel guilty for daring to put her own needs before those of her children or husband.
Men likewise because they are so competitive learn to love themselves but don’t learn to love others. Patriarchy very much encourages this, by teaching men to be very macho. A very competitive person has to be very selfish and ruthless to enable him to be like this. As they say in sports; “nice guys come last”. While in criminal gangs or on the battlefield it is an advantage to be so uncaring of others they you are willing to kill others. Soldiers are trained killers and are not any use to the their generals unless they are capable of killing the enemy without question. For this reason patriarchy encourages the macho culture, that claims that violence is justified and war is glorious. This is why in books, films and video games the ‘hero’ is always a violent man who solves problems through extreme violence.
Many people find it difficult to both love themselves and others at the same time, and believe they have to choose between themselves and others. Although it is difficult for people to do this, we all need to learn to love fully if we want to live in a better world for ourselves.
The way our patriarchal society is set up it is not easy for Women to learn how to love themselves and it is not easy for men to learn how to love others. So out of this need in both men and women to learn to love fully, the powerful Femdom desires were born.
When a man finds himself with a powerful desire to want to worship and serve a woman as a goddess, he is not only learning how to deeply love another person, he is greatly helping the women whom he worships and serves, to learn to love herself.
This is why Femdom would greatly benefit any society that was obsessed by this desire. A society where men are learning how to love others would be a far better society than a macho society where men are encouraged to be competitive, selfish and ruthless. Also a society where women have learnt to love themselves will mean women will have the confidence to want to rule society. This will then allow these women to rule using their maternal instincts to nurture the whole society.
A society where people are able to learn how to both love themselves and love others would be a far more stable society than a patriarchal society where men are encouraged only to love themselves and women only to love others. Patriarchy likes to claim that a utopian society where people love each other is impossible. Whereas the truth is that a utopian society is only impossible while macho men continue to rule our world.
